Nearly half of grandparents provide over 12 hours of free childcare each week, often helping working parents. One reader felt her daughter-in-law (DIL) was taking advantage by asking for babysitting without payment. She sought advice on how to handle the situation without damaging their relationship.
Communicate Openly:
Have a calm conversation with your son and DIL, explaining your reasons for feeling uncomfortable, whether due to physical limitations or other concerns. Encourage them to share their feelings too.
Show You Care:
Even if you can’t babysit often, small gestures like bringing treats or spending time with the children can show you care.
Seek Compromise:
If regular babysitting is too much, offer to help less frequently or for shorter periods, and recognize your DIL’s struggles as a working mom.
Apologize if Needed:
If your words hurt your DIL, a sincere apology can help mend the relationship and clarify your intentions.
Rebuild the Relationship:
Small acts of kindness, like complimenting her parenting or offering manageable help, can rebuild trust and ease tensions.
