It’s completely understandable to feel hurt when expectations aren’t met, especially during something as emotionally charged as the holidays. Gifts, while often meant to show love and appreciation, can sometimes miss the mark. In this case, a frying pan might not have been the most thoughtful or personal gift, and that could understandably sting. But as you said, it’s important to look beyond the surface. Perhaps it wasn’t meant as an attack on you, but rather a misguided or thoughtless gesture. Setting clear boundaries with your MIL about comments or gifts could help, and while this situation may have felt overwhelming, taking a step back to reflect on what you really need—whether that’s a conversation, some space, or just more open communication—could make a world of difference. The emotional impact of these moments is real, but they don’t necessarily define the entire relationship.
